What to Do If You have RBF

What is RBF? Resting Bitch Face. You already know about it; it’s been a meme for a couple of decades now. Here’s how you know if you have it: people tell you--or react to you as if--your face is expressing anger, sadness, contempt, etc, when you aren’t actually expressing anything. It’s the guy who tells … Continue reading What to Do If You have RBF

How to Be Part of Something Bigger

Feeling like you are a part of a group, especially one with a spiritual or otherwise important purpose, is one of the best feelings there is. To move as one with people who agree with you on something -- you evolved to like it. If you’re sneering right now, it’s because you’ve never felt it. … Continue reading How to Be Part of Something Bigger

Hyperlocal Travel Journaling

You’ve seen the gorgeous illustrated journals on Pinterest and Instagram. You’ve pored over the sketches and watercolors, the bullet journal layouts of itineraries and packing lists. You’ve dreamed about going to those exotic locations yourself someday, sitting in a historic area, sketching the architecture, trying the food, listening to the people. But you’re not going … Continue reading Hyperlocal Travel Journaling

What Does Coziness Mean?

Let’s start with the etymology. What do the words themselves teach us about how to make a room cozy? Cozy There is a connection to the Norwegian words kose seg, meaning “to bask, to enjoy oneself, to be cozy”, and koselig, which loosely translates to “coziness.” The OED doesn’t recognize this connection, however. It says … Continue reading What Does Coziness Mean?

Why Insomnia Tips Never Worked for Me

(Note: I will be mentioning my experiences with medications in this article. I am not a doctor and I am not your doctor. I am only speaking about what happened to me. Don’t use my experiences to medicate your own body!) You know the old string of advice you get when you tell a doctor … Continue reading Why Insomnia Tips Never Worked for Me

You’re Going to Have to Declutter Again

You just finished decluttering! Your house looks amazing, Instagram-ready, cleaner than when you moved in! You’re relaxing in a chair next to a table with exactly two things on it. Your creativity is on absolute fire because you can see all your supplies and materials and you know exactly what you want to do with … Continue reading You’re Going to Have to Declutter Again

Dropping Ashes on the Buddha: A Review and Answer Key

The Teachings of Zen Master Seung Sahn, compiled by Stephen Mitchell, published in 1994. This might be the best book on Zen I have ever read in my life. And I don’t read a lot of them.  I once explained to someone that this was because they all say the same thing; you could pick … Continue reading Dropping Ashes on the Buddha: A Review and Answer Key

Social Media, Your (Disordered) Brain, and You

Is It an Addiction? “A recent meta-analysis suggests that globally the prevalence rate [of social media addiction] is about 6% and that it varies by country, ranging from 2.6% to 10.9%” (source: Brain Anatomy Alterations Associated with Social Networking Site Addiction). “Internet Gaming Disorder” is included as a possible condition, warranting further study, in the … Continue reading Social Media, Your (Disordered) Brain, and You

The Hermit, Part 2: Reversed

Have you read Part 1: Upright Meanings yet? If not--don't worry! It might be a fun and interesting exercise to think about the Hermit reversed before you know him upright. When a tarot card shows up upside down in a reading, its meaning changes. It can be the "opposite" of its upright meaning; or it … Continue reading The Hermit, Part 2: Reversed

How to Take Yourself on a Date

That’s not really the right phrase, is it? A “date” implies another person, and "taking yourself on one" makes it sound like you're doing the abnormal thing, like there's something missing from what you're doing.  We can go the other way, and say it's a "date" because you love yourself and you're pampering yourself, and … Continue reading How to Take Yourself on a Date